Pare un fel de banc sec: \u00eenc\u0103 o r\u0103spundere \u00een plus pe care o am ca p\u0103rinte! Serios?!?!? Nu \u0219tiam ce \u00eemi lipse\u0219te… <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Acesta este principiul num\u0103rul cinci, ultimul din seria dedicat\u0103 \u00eembun\u0103t\u0103\u021birii rela\u021biei pe care o avem cu copilul\/copii no\u0219tri. Din principiul prezentat \u00een articolul anterior \u201eSup\u0103rarea?Nu duce la nimic\u201d ne-am dat seama c\u0103 este perfect normal s\u0103 nu ne putem p\u0103stra calmul tot timpul, \u00een orice situa\u021bie. \u0218i chiar am descoperit c\u0103 exist\u0103 un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos de a ne expune sup\u0103rarea fa\u021b\u0103 de copil. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bunn… ne sup\u0103r\u0103m afectuos, dar ce facem dup\u0103? Refacerea leg\u0103turii dup\u0103 o ceart\u0103\/sup\u0103rare \u00ee\u0219i revine \u021bie, p\u0103rintelui. De ce? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Din primul articol dedicat acestor principii, am convenit urm\u0103torul lucru: dat fiind c\u0103 nimic din ce face copilul nu trebuie s\u0103 v\u0103 amenin\u021be rela\u021bia\/leg\u0103tura, el nu trebuie s\u0103 depun\u0103 vreun efort ca s\u0103 o refac\u0103. Logic, nu? <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
\u0218i-atunci, dac\u0103 tu \u021bi-ai ie\u0219it din fire, e treaba ta s\u0103 restabile\u0219ti pacea. Cum?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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- Nu are rost s\u0103 \u00eel pui pe copil ( a se citi – for\u021ba) s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i cear\u0103 scuze fa\u021b\u0103 de tine, \u00eenainte<\/strong> <\/em>ca tu s\u0103-l fi iertat. <\/li>
- Evit\u0103 promisiunile de\u0219arte<\/em><\/strong>! Chiar nu e realist s\u0103 te apuci s\u0103-i promiti copilului c\u0103 n-ai s\u0103 te mai enervezi, c\u0103 n-ai s\u0103 mai fii \u201er\u0103u\u201d, findc\u0103 inevitabil ai s\u0103 te mai enervezi \u0219i alt\u0103 dat\u0103. <\/li>
- Refacerea leg\u0103turii \u00eenseamn\u0103 pur \u0219i simplu s\u0103 recuno\u0219ti c\u0103 vezi ce s-a \u00eent\u00e2mplat <\/em><\/strong>– dac\u0103 tu \u021bi-ai iesit din pepeni pentru boac\u0103na f\u0103cut\u0103 nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 boac\u0103na nu va mai exista, nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 al t\u0103u copil va \u00eenv\u0103\u021ba ceva din nervii t\u0103i- \u0219i \u00een\u021belegi ce simte copilul<\/em><\/strong> \u00een aceast\u0103 privin\u021b\u0103 – toate st\u0103rile care se declan\u0219eaz\u0103 \u00een copil ca reactie la furia ta: ru\u0219ine, pl\u00e2ns, furie, arogan\u021b\u0103- \u0219i ascul\u021bi impar\u021bial ce are el de spus<\/em><\/strong> vizavi de lucrurile \u00eentamplate. <\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n
Pentru mine, acest ultim punct a fost cel mai greu de realizat. Nu \u0219tiu al\u021bi p\u0103rin\u021bi cum sunt, dar eu eram absolut convins\u0103 c\u0103 sunt \u00eendrept\u0103\u021bit\u0103 s\u0103 m\u0103 sup\u0103r atunci c\u00e2nd fiul meu face vreo tr\u0103znaie. Ce s\u0103 fie vorba despre a m\u0103 duce eu s\u0103 refac leg\u0103tura?!?! A\u0219teptam s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i cear\u0103 el scuze, chiar dac\u0103 eu fusesem cea care a avut reac\u021bia de furie. Dar lucrurile se pot schimba, atunci c\u00e2nd vrem. \u0218i eu am vrut. Nu zic c\u0103 a fost u\u0219or. Dar zic c\u0103 merit\u0103 pe deplin!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, ce vrem s\u0103 \u00eei \u00eenv\u0103\u021b\u0103m pe copii? Pe ce anume punem accent? <\/p>
Haide\u021bi s\u0103 le trasmitem c\u0103 viitorul este important<\/em><\/strong>. C\u0103 punem accent pe vindecare \u0219i dezvoltare,<\/em><\/strong> nu pe obiectivele cu termen scurt. <\/p>
\u0218i s\u0103 facem toate acestea cu bucurie. Cu mult\u0103 bucurie. <\/p>
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