Pentru p\u0103rinte este mai important ce face copilul \u0219i nu ceea ce este copilul. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
S-ar putea ca nici m\u0103car s\u0103 nu \u00ee\u021bi fi dat seama c\u0103 transmi\u021bi acest mesaj copilului t\u0103u. Eu, cel pu\u021bin, exact asta am p\u0103\u021bit. Mi se p\u0103rea extrem de natural \u0219i benefic s\u0103 \u00eemi laud copilul: Mvai, ce frumos esti! OO, dar ce destept esti! – si altele din gama asta. Dincolo de faptul c\u0103 sunt convins\u0103 100% c\u0103 am un copil frumos \u0219i de\u0219tept, eram \u0219i mai convins\u0103 c\u0103 aceste laude \u00eei cresc stima de sine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
De fapt, ce mecanism se declan\u0219eaz\u0103 c\u00e2nd ne l\u0103ud\u0103m copiii \u00een acest mod? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Copilul \u00eenva\u021b\u0103 c\u0103 este mai important ceea ce face, \u0219i nu ceea ce este. Asta, pe termen lung \u0219i foarte lung, transform\u0103 copilul \u00een adultul acela superficial, care nu prea ne place: omul care pune mare pre\u021b, de exemplu, pe exteriorul s\u0103u \u00een detrimentul interiorului. <\/p>
Respect de sine dobandit pe baza evalu\u0103rilor f\u0103cute de cei din jur- a\u0219a \u00eel nume\u0219te psihologul evolutiv Gordon Neufeld. <\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n
Ce e de f\u0103cut?<\/strong> Simplu! Continu\u0103m s\u0103 ne l\u0103ud\u0103m copiii, dar \u00eentr-un mod s\u0103n\u0103tos, astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 \u00ee\u0219i poat\u0103 cl\u0103di singuri, \u00eencet \u0219i sigur, respectul de sine, pe baza a ceea ce sunt, \u0219i nu pe baza evalu\u0103rilor primite de la cei din jurul lor. Iat\u0103 cum: <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n
- Comentariile laudative se refer\u0103 mai degrab\u0103 la fapt\u0103 <\/strong>dec\u00e2t la copil : \u201eWoww, proiectul \u0103sta \u021bi-a ie\u0219it foarte bine!\u201d \u00een loc de \u201eUite ce proiect frumos ai f\u0103cut- esti foarte destept!\u201d <\/li>
- L\u0103ud\u0103m efortul <\/strong>copilului: \u201d Asta da! nu te-ai dat b\u0103tut\/ai continuat s\u0103 \u00eencerci\/nu ai renun\u021bat de\u0219i a fost foarte dificil!\u201d \u00een loc de \u201eCe priceput esti, ai reusit sa rezolvi problema!\u201d <\/li>
- Facem referire la emotiile<\/strong> copilului : \u201eAm v\u0103zut c\u0103 \u021bi-a fost greu. Cu toate astea, ai g\u0103sit solutia cea mai bun\u0103. Felicit\u0103ri!\u201d \u00een loc de \u201dCe perspicace esti\/ ce descurcaret esti!\u201d <\/li><\/ul>\n<\/div><\/div>\n\n\n\n
A\u0219a c\u0103, stai lini\u0219tit p\u0103rinte drag! Nu \u00eenseamn\u0103 c\u0103 nu-\u021bi mai po\u021bi l\u0103uda copilul. Doar c\u0103 e mai productiv \u0219i s\u0103n\u0103tos, \u0219i pe termen lung si pe termen scurt, s\u0103 o facem \u00een modul potrivit. P\u00e2n\u0103 la urm\u0103, ne dorim s\u0103 cre\u0219tem copiii astfel \u00eenc\u00e2t s\u0103 devin\u0103 adul\u021bi ferici\u021bi, care s\u0103 cultive rela\u021bii prospere cu cei din jurul lor, \u0219i s\u0103 aprecieze lucrurile si persoanele din jurul lor la adev\u0103rata valoare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00cen loc de concluzie, un g\u00e2nd: Oamenii nu au nevoie de judec\u0103\u021bi, au nevoie de acceptare. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Principiul num\u0103rul trei: P\u0103rintele nu-l laud\u0103 exagerat pe copil. Dac\u0103 nu \u0219tii care e treaba cu principiile acestea, poti afla…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1134,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[96,127,1],"tags":[509,91,513,514,515,508,512,223],"class_list":["post-1132","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-raboiul-de-tesut-povesti","category-evenimente","category-https-blog-andreaneag-com-tagcoachingpentruperformanta","tag-acceptare","tag-copii","tag-evaluare","tag-exterior","tag-interior","tag-judecata","tag-lauda","tag-respect","post-archive"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1132"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1136,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1132\/revisions\/1136"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1134"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1132"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1132"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/blog.andreaneag.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1132"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}